Don't Get Caught Reading Glamour

I recently was perusing MSN when I stumbled upon an article written by Julie Klam for Glamour magazine entitled, “Would You Be Friends With You?” Now I must admit the only thing I know, or think I know, about Glamour magazine is that is a written largely for women. In a nutshell the article is made up of a series of questions that the reader, a woman, is supposed to ask herself in order to figure out whether she would “excel in the friend department or are one of those annoying people who always assumes everyone wants to hear the dream they had last night.” Questions like:

• Would you pick up your own call?
• Would you shop for a swimsuit with you?
• Would you be happy if you got a new boyfriend? 

While I am not a woman, this article intrigued me. It intrigued me because it further solidified my belief that a man needs to be conscience of the way his significant other views the effort he is putting into their relationship. If you do not think that your lady is analyzing everything you do and say then you’re a fool! Look at the things she spends time thinking about... hello… “would you be friends with you” anyone? If your significant other analyzes what kind of friend she is to her friends you can bet your bottom dollar that she has and is using those same analytical powers while looking in your direction mister! 

The good news is that women do not expect men to be perfect. At least that is my experience. Flip through an issue of Glamour or Cosmopolitan just once and you will see there are plenty of articles written by women, for women, explaining that we are the “train wrecks” of the human species and they need to be cognizant of that when engaging in a relationship with a man. Just because females are cognizant of it does not mean that they are overly tolerant of it however. Therein lies the essence this blog. As a man you do not have to change your behavior, what makes you a man if you will, to satisfy your significant other’s every whim or desire. Heck, I bet she does not want that either. But she does need you to make an effort, an effort that lets her know that you believe your life is better because she is in it. So what are you to do to give her that feeling? Well if you are new to this blog, you should start by reading one of my previous posts:

• Life Sucks Sometimes - the Power of a Really Good Kiss
• Don't Call Her a Cheap Date
• How to Argue the Right Way

As for the regular readers who are looking for a new weekly tip, here it is. Sometime while out together, before getting into the vehicle, walk around to her side of the car and open the door for her. Wait patiently for her to be seated and then close the car door. She will be pleasantly surprised that not only did you open the car door for her but that you waited while she seated herself to close the door so she did not have to.

There you have it, another example of something simple that will make your significant other feel like she has made the right choice in choosing you. Remember, it’s the little things. Oh, one piece of advice. If you decide to flip through an issue of Glamour or Cosmopolitan to see what is really inside those things, for God’s sake do not let your buddies find out about it! Until next week...

It’s the Little Things – the Hubby Coach Mindset in the Real Life

A friend of mine pulled me aside today to share a story with me. It seems her boyfriend, the morning after she spent the night, snuck downstairs and prepared breakfast for her. Once the meal was prepared he texted her that breakfast was ready. This event took place Sunday morning and today is Wednesday. This tells me two things, 1) her boyfriend’s effort of preparing breakfast with a creative text message made an impact upon her and 2) it is truly the little things that make the difference between having an average relationship and a stellar one.

This is a perfect example of something little making a big difference. The fact of the matter is this particular gesture did not take days of planning. There was not a significant monetary commitment involved. If you get right down to it, all he had to do was be quiet and make breakfast, and I am guessing he would have made breakfast anyway. Add a dash of creativity on his part, the text message, and he had recipe to make his girlfriend feel special, wanted and loved. Not only that, but she was was telling others about how thoughtful he was days later. Excellent! This is what we are all about at Hubby Coach, taking something ordinary and making it extraordinary. Two thumbs up!

Take this idea and run with it, or put your own twist on it, either way it will have your significant other telling her friends how sweet and thoughtful you are!

Till next week – Hubby Coach