Your Personal Trainer for Your Personal Life says "Let's Go!"

I think she missed.

Here we go!

Today is the day! What day? Why, the day we get started WOW-ing that lady of yours, of course. But before I get to that, I found an interesting article on Yahoo! this morning. It is titled “For Guys: A Guide to Girl Talk” by Amy Spencer. Amy writes some things that really make me want to pack my bags and live the life of a monk on some mountain-high temple. For example, Amy writes, “If you’ve ever spoken to a woman, it’s fair to say you’ve been confused by one. Yes doesn’t always mean yes, no doesn’t always mean no, and most of us have once in our lives even admitted, “Well, I may have said that, but I didn’t mean it.” “

It is like we have moved to Bizarro World. You know, in the Superman comic books where everything is backward. Didn’t everyone read Superman when they were a kid?

Amy continues her article by sighting examples of what a woman says versus what she really means. Here is my favorite example:

What she says: “If you want to have a guy’s night, go ahead, fine.”

What she means: “I really, really don’t want you to go. And if you do, I’m going to be upset.”

Say what? So really what she is saying is that trying to decipher what a woman means is harder than trying to decipher the hand singles from the coach on an opposing baseball team.

So what are you, a guy, to do if a your woman says “yes” when she means “no,” or if she says it is perfectly fine with her if you do something, only to find out later that you’re in trouble? Because let’s face it, sooner or later you are going to do something wrong, whether it is taking her at her word, acting immature, or tuning her out while your favorite sport is on. The only thing you can do is try to stack the deck in your favor. And just how are you going to do that? By doing the one thing that I know she likes, making her the center of your attention even if it is only in limited brief spurts. You see, if I know one thing, it is that women, all women, like to be the center of her man’s world. That doesn’t mean that you have to dote on her every minute of the day, but it does mean that you have to go out of your way once in a while to make her feel special.

One piece of advice before you start

If you have been in your relationship a while and have not gone out of your way to make your lady feel like she is the center of your world, then you might face a little backlash the first time you attempt you make an effort and follow one of the tasks. She might think that you want something. It is extremely important that, if she questions you, you tell her that you have no ulterior motives and it was you thinking of her that prompted your action.

Let’s start small

While at work, either e-mail, text, or call your significant other and say something along the lines of:

Hey sweetie, I’m extremely busy at work, but I wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you. I miss you and can’t wait to see you. (Obviously take the time to rewrite the message with words you would normally use with your lady.)

Do you know what happened when I sent this to wife? When I got home, the grass was cut. My wife never cuts the grass! No joke. I was also told how sweet and thoughtful I was for taking a moment out of my busy day to send her that e-mail.

While your lady doing things like cutting the grass for you is not necessarily the outcome we are looking for- it is nice bonus for sure. Remember, the goal here is to create the feeling for her that she is the center of your world. It will keep you her biggest fan and there will be all kinds of rewards for you to reap from that alone with the most important being you won’t be lonely.

If you would like to read more of Amy Spencer’s article, you can find it here:

http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=11997